Wedding season is upon us, so I wanted to share my thoughts about what I was going through on the day I got engaged. This is an amazing time of life, and I pray for everyone currently going through this wonderful journey. Without further ado:
There’s someone out there for you. Someone you can talk to for hours on end, anywhere. You’ll talk about God, His gospel, and what it looks like to live an integrated life—full of Christ’s love, actively used towards others.
You’ll learn how to express your feelings with one another, and realize how difficult it is to voice your thoughts to another person. But it’s worth it, oh it’s worth it.
It’s worth it to understand how to meet someone’s needs, how to cherish them well, and how to deal with conflict and see it as a good thing. Not something to run away from.
Maybe this is what it would sound like if God promised me all these wonderful gifts. Through the years he has been molding me in preparation for the day I’d meet my future husband. I met him when I least expected it, and my heart has leapt, expanded, and heaved under the weight of the love I hold for Tyler Carroll.
We’ve learned so much from each other, whether it’s emotional, spiritual or intellectual. I know how to make him mad, and I know what makes him feel treasured. He values me and shows it on a regular basis. I feel so loved, and yet, in this earthly love – I’m reminded it is supposed to mirror the love God has for His church, for His children.
Marriage was the VERY first human institution God breathed life into during the creation of the world. The purpose of man and woman made in the image of God served to glorify Him in their permanent relationship with one another (Genesis 2:24).
Through sanctification, counseling, and intimately drawing to Jesus- our commitment to each other will be deepened and our genuine love will be confirmed. Seeking godly counsel, examining our hearts and living out of the abounding grace God has blessed us with will be the tools we unyieldingly cling to!
Hi, my name is Melissa Pollard and I am a daughter of the King. I also happen to be engaged.
From this point forward, yes it will be fun planning out the wedding, but more importantly—how can I prepare my heart for my future husband? I must look to the cross, I must see Christ as the only sustainer of my life, His throne must rule in my heart. I cannot look to Tyler to fulfill all my needs. However, we must use our relationship to challenge each other, sharpen each other, and encourage one another to strengthen our walk with the Lord.
Marriage functions as one of the greatest ways to proclaim the gospel. It displays the closest earthly resemblance of unconditional love.
It’s not a contest of the most expensive ring, the fanciest wedding dress, the best venue, the greatest music, or the most entertaining occasion of the year. The ceremony and reception of a wedding represent the bigger picture, the lasting picture. The ceremony and reception will fade; these only last a couple of hours. Marriage is a commitment of a lifetime.
Will you please pray for me and Tyler to remember this?
I’ve already gotten swept up in the image of what our relationship looks like to the world and how me and Tyler can impress people with our engagement and marriage. I had to confess these thoughts THIS morning. The world will whisper lies into your mind, tell you to make your wedding bigger, better, more expensive. “Please the crowds!” it will say. But that’s not the truth. This is about you, your future husband/wife and Jesus. Jesus takes center stage. Not the flowers, not the food, not the decorations.
LET US NOT FORGET THOUGH, JESUS’ FIRST MIRACLE WAS TURNING WATER TO WINE. Weddings lasted a week y’all, full of joy and celebration—intended to glorify God.
So yes, I need to examine my heart and make sure appearances and people’s opinions do not become idols in my life. But, I’m also praying my wedding and relationship with Tyler will be a living example of Christ’s love in our hearts. I pray it brings many people’s talents together to help me prepare for the special day. I pray it will unite all the people I love under one roof in celebration of our love for each other, and ultimately for Christ.
To sum everything up, I want to pray this verse in my life:
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church– for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery–but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:22-33